Bedroom Feng Shui

Do you have a television in your bedroom? Is there a mirror in the bedroom that reflects your bed? Is your bed positioned in alignment with a door in a way that it opens directly onto some part of the bed? When laying in bed, are you unable to see the bedroom door due to some sort of obstruction? Is your bed floating in the middle of the room, placed diagonally in a corner or without a solid wall directly behind it? Do you have a slatted headboard or no headboard at all? Is your bedroom door in direct alignment with an en suite bathroom door? Is there a toilet on the other side of the wall directly behind your headboard? Does your ceiling have beams overhead or is it sloped at an angle over your bed? If you said yes to any of these questions, then from a Feng shui perspective, there is potential risk of negative energies that may affect things in your life such as health and relationships.

Before I get started, I would like to explain one Feng Shui term, called a poison arrow. Poison arrows are believed to cause stressful negative energy. Televisions, mirrors, doors that open to part of a bed and beams or sloped ceilings are examples of poison arrows that can be found in a bedroom.

With so many different schools of Feng shui out there, there are many varied opinions on do’s and don’ts of Feng shui in a bedroom. I’ll go over a few general aspects based on my training with Xuan Kong Flying Star Feng Shui plus my own personal experiences that you may want to take into consideration for your own bedroom. Keep in mind that there are many Layers of Feng Shui that a certified consultant will need to analyze before giving any specific Feng Shui remedies and recommendations. What I will go over are only general guidelines and do not take into account the many other factors in each home that may affect and result in a different analysis and recommendation.

First and foremost, many schools will agree that the bed should be in commanding position, which basically means that when laying in bed, you can see the door to the bedroom. However, the bed should not be placed in a position where the door opens up to a part of the bed or where your feet are pointing straight out the door (sometimes referenced to as a coffin position). A bedroom or bathroom door that opens to any part of the bed may cause health issues. Other doors such as those to a closet or outdoor space is prone to the same, but are not considered as strong a negative energy compared to the main bedroom door or the bathroom door.

If the bedroom door is in direct alignment with the bathroom door, this is considered a poison arrow also. The energy rushes directly into the bedroom and straight to the bathroom, which is considered inauspicious and may cause issues in various areas of your life. There are a couple remedies to this such as placing something in between the doors.

Many schools will say placing your bed against a solid wall with a solid headboard is a must to ensure energetic support while sleeping. A headboard with slats or holes should not be used because it does not provide the strong and stable energetic support. In my school, if the only commanding position or position that avoids a door opening up to part of the bed, leaves your bed underneath a window, then that is preferred over another placement that is not in commanding position or has the bed or bathroom door opening to it. However, if your headboard is against a wall where the toilet is directly behind it on the other side of the wall, this is said to lead to headaches or other illnesses so another positioning should be used if able.

Beams are a beautiful architectural feature, but a Feng shui nightmare when over a bed. Same goes for sloped and angled ceilings because these cause a pressure energy against whatever part of your body is underneath them. Or if a beam runs between you and your partner in bed, this can contribute to negative energy in your relationship.

You may be wondering why a television is considered bad Feng shui. One explanation is it acts like a regular mirror that reflects energy back to the bed. Another explanation seems to derive from spiritual belief because it acts as a black mirror, which is a satanic related tool to contact and communicate with what I will call bad spirits or demons. Therefore if you have a TV, consider keeping it in a closed cabinet or something draped over when you sleep if possible. I would say the same goes for a computer monitor.

As for a regular mirror that may be reflecting part of the bed, some schools use this as a remedy for other Feng shui issues such as beds not placed in commanding position. In other schools, mirrors are said to disturbingly reflect and block the energy flow. In my school, a mirror is considered a strict no no and could cause issues with relationships. From my own personal perspective, I avoid mirrors across from the bed because I was traumatized by both the Bloody Mary ritual and the movie Candyman where you repeat either in a mirror a number of times to conjure them to appear in the mirror. When I sleep in hotel rooms, that for some reason notoriously almost always have a mirror facing a bed, I try to pick the bed or side of the bed that isn’t in direct alignment with the bed because they just freak me out!

When I hired a Feng shui consultant before I got trained myself, she told me I should not have anything underneath the bed because it bring negative energy to health and relationships. I was using a platform storage bed that had 6 drawers all filled with clothing, then on top of that, I used the entire middle section that was empty as storage for random items that I could not fit in my closets. And when I say random, I mean random, I had a sword, old pictures and mementos of ex boyfriends, journals, paperwork, boxes, tv mounts, random electronics and cables, unused decorations and other things under my bed. When I told her what I had there, she responded, it’s no wonder you are having terrible sleep!

Sharp objects like my sword (or knives and guns) are said to carry a harsh energy that makes it hard to fall asleep that can cause nightmares or have cutting energy that can cause health issues that require surgery. I can say that since I kept my sword under my bed for several years, I did end up having one surgery during that time. Could it have been Feng shui? Maybe!

Books or paperwork underneath the bed provide a stimulating energy for the mind which counters the main purpose of the bed and bedroom, which is to rest and sleep. One of the reasons I had such trouble with sleep is because I couldn’t stop thinking and I can’t help but wonder if the books and paperwork caused some of that! With regard to old pictures and mementos of exes, these are believed keep you trapped in the negative emotions of the past and may affect current relationships and emotional health.

If you have a large room in which one area of the room is used as an office space with a desk, books, paperwork, a computer and other electronics, I will say that generically some of those items exude a stimulating and potentially negative energy as previously mentioned. One recommendation may be to consider putting a room divider/screen between the work area and the bed to further contain any negative energy from the workspace area. Please contact me directly before you buy one though as not all room dividers and screens are beneficial from a Feng shui perspective either and can actually cause more negative energies! But please be advised that the other layers of Feng shui have an impact, especially the direction of the placement of both the bed and desk and those can only be assessed through a consultation.

The last thing I’ll mention is that colors of sheets and blankets do make a difference with enhancing good energy or mitigating negative energy. The consultant I hired had me change my white and gray sheets to one of three other colors to help reduce my constantly running mind and create a more peaceful and calm energy in my bed. Now that I am certified, I understand the reasoning behind her color recommendations, but this is something that a Feng shui consultant will need a formal consultation to properly analyze and make recommendations for specific bedrooms. For example, my current bedroom actually benefits from white and gray sheets.

As I mentioned in my What Does Feng Shui Have to do with my Spiritual Journey? post, Feng Shui remedies and activations will only take you so far because it is only one third of the pie, called Earth Luck, that is your home. Another third is called Heaven Luck and is based on the premise that fate, destiny and karma, which is related to past lives and related karmic debt, will affect your current life. The last third of the pie is Man(kind) Luck. This is what each person has free will to do, such as thoughts, feelings, and actions. This is the area that has the most potential to have the greatest effects out of all the three and where both actions towards goals as well as spirituality come into play. It is said in order to really shift one’s life the luck scale must be tipped from one thirds to two thirds. To do that, working on both Earth Luck with Feng Shui and either Heaven or Mankind Luck is necessary.