Per my What Does Mars Really Have to do with Men? blog post, Venus represents beauty, love, money and relationships. Can determine how materialistic you are. When it comes to romantic relationships, it is important to note this planet’s meaning can be different depending if you’re looking at a woman’s or man’s chart according to some schools. I have heard the following: In a woman’s chart, Venus can give indications as to how she acts in romantic relationships. In a man’s chart, it is what he’s looking for in a woman. Per Café Astrology, where you can go to get your own birth chart, it says Venus represents an interest in emotions and values, exchange, and sharing with others.
My Venus is in Sagittarius and the way I’d generically describe the way I am when in love with this placement is that since I was young, I never wanted to get married. I have always believed that it was unnatural for humans, especially growing up Catholic, that you should only commit yourself to one person for your entire life. That of course did not stop me from dating, trying to find love or having boyfriends, of which I have had many, but I can say that I went into all of those relationships with the assumption that it would end at some point and by no means did I expect any of them to result in marriage.
According to my natal/birth chart from Café Astrology this is the description the report provides:
When Venus in Sagittarius people are in love, they need to feel they can grow and expand their horizons through their relationship. They want to learn new things, and experience everything together. These are idealistic lovers who want you to appreciate their beliefs, visions, and ideals. They can be a confusing mix of the lighthearted and serious. They are roamers and seekers, and don’t commit in their relationships as easily as others. Venus in Sagittarius people turn others on with their big smiles and laughs, their jokes, their grand schemes, their dreams, and their friendly, flirtatious behavior. They pride themselves on their open minds, but you may notice they can be judgmental too. They are threatened by inhibitions on the part of their lover, dullness, and emotional overkill. They are restless, and won’t put up with lovers who dwell on any one thing. When the going gets tough in their
relationship, they have an overwhelming need to run away. Usually this only means getting out and experiencing something new before they come back, but sometimes it can be for good. They are attracted to people in love with life. You don’t need to be refined, polished, or graceful to win their favor.
Pleasing Venus in Sagittarius involves allowing them lots of room in the relationship to grow. Avoid getting stuck in a rut, and understand their need to move on. Learn to laugh, but take their rants and raves seriously. Avoid criticizing their beliefs, join them in debates, and philosophize along with them. When they feel the need for more experience, join them! Learn to look past their clumsiness with you and your feelings, and avoid cornering them or forcing them to commit.
As I look back at my past serious relationships, I rarely felt like I was expanding as a result of the person I was with and in fact had been told my most of my ex’s that I was the reason they themselves were growing and becoming better men. When they said that to me, I would think that it was a shame that I could not say the same for myself with them. Aside from one ex, I never felt any of them really understood me, much less my beliefs, visions or ideals, but can say I probably was not even clear on all those within myself to begin with either. But I also never felt all but one even bothered to ask much or dig deep into any of those topics with me. I do have both a lighthearted and serious side to me, with serious being the main default. And while I have been in several long committed relationships, I was not truly committed in my heart or mind because as I said before, I went into and stayed in those relationships with the mindset that they were temporary and that at some point we would break up and not be together anymore. I can’t really speak to the sentence about how I turn others on, that would have to come from those who are turned on by me for one reason or another, but I will, without hesitation, say I am quite judgmental of others. The description about inhibitions, dullness and emotional overkill is referenced as things that threaten me, but from my perspective, those are the things that seemed to drive me away and want to end the relationship sooner. The part that says I want to run away when things get tough is only slightly accurate because while I would feel that way, taking the action is a totally different story and that is due to my Taurus Moon Sign, which is detailed in that post. It also says that it may result in me getting out to experience something new before coming back, or not and this is also accurate of me.
As for the second descriptive paragraph which describes the best way to deal with me considering my Venus in Sagittarius, I do consider that to be excellent advice since I resonate with all of it!
As indicated in my What Does Mars Really Have to do with Men? post, I will also go over another person’s chart, whom I refer to as Kali, who is born on the same month and day as I was, but different year and location to offer a comparison of how two people with the same birth day, can be vastly different despite both being Scorpios. According to Kali’s natal/birth chart from Café Astrology her Venus is in Libra and this is the description the report provides:
Venus in Libra people will impress you with their kindness, evenhandedness, and willingness to make your relationship work. They have a polished manner in love, which sometimes makes them appear insincere or superficial. They are gentle lovers who hate to be offended. They are threatened by bad manners and direct or abrasive expression of feelings. They not only prefer to choose the middle road, they seek the middle ground in their relationships. You can expect to be treated fairly, and you may be turned on by Venus in Libra’s willingness to concede and adjust their lives to fully accommodate you. Venus in Libra natives have idealized images of their relationships, even to the point where the relationship becomes bigger than life, taking on a life of its own. They can become quietly resentful if they feel they are being taken advantage of — and they make it easy for more aggressive types to bully them around.
Pleasing Venus in Libra involves treating them kindly and fairly. They love to share everything with you, so let them. Foreplay for them can be mental — they love to communicate with you about the relationship. Sharing turns them on, and tactless or uncouth behavior is a turn-off. Although they seem to put up with a lot, be fair with them. Over time, imbalance in their relationship is sure to make them unhappy, and when it comes to this, they may try to even the score in subtle, roundabout ways. Don’t let it come to that, and you will be rewarded with a lover who puts themselves in your shoes and treats you exactly how they would like to be treated.
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