Mars Sign

Per my What Does Mars Really Have to do with Men? blog post, Mars is your energy, what drives you, passion and how you take action. When it comes to romantic relationships, it is important to note this planet’s meaning can be different depending if you’re looking at a woman’s or man’s chart according to some schools. I have heard the following: In a woman’s chart, Mars is what she is attracted to in a man. In a man’s chart, Mars is the way he acts in a romantic relationship. Per Cafe Astrology, where you can go to get your own birth chart, it says Mars represents the desire for action and physical energy.

My Mars is in Scorpio and the way I’d generically describe my drive and how I take action with this placement is once I decide on something then I will put everything I have into achieving it, the key being IF I make that decision. A sense of accomplishment is one of my biggest drivers and it gives me such satisfaction to cross off something I completed on my to do list. I can have an unbelievable focus once I set my mind on something and that often culminates in positive results. As for the characteristics of a man that I find attractive, I would say many of the traits of a Scorpio is what I do find appealing, which is detailed in my It’s Scorpio Season post.

According to my natal/birth chart from Café Astrology this is the description the report provides:
Mars in Scorpio natives love to challenge themselves to do the impossible. They throw themselves into what they decide to do with concentrated energy and awesome willpower. These people make formidable opponents, although often quietly so. They keep their cool and their equilibrium on the surface. Below the surface may be another story, and they are unlikely to easily let you in. Mars in Scorpio has the potential to exploit others–these people see through others, and rely heavily on their gut feelings. The sexual stamina of this position is thought to be the strongest of all the positions of Mars. Sometimes, Mars in Scorpio people are attracted to taboos, and their fantasies may involve blowing the taboos to smithereens! They enjoy scenarios in which the “other” is giving in to them, wants them completely, and will do absolutely anything for them. And, their sexual appeal is strong enough that they generally do get what they want.

They find it difficult to share their partners, though they will likely never admit this. In stark contrast to Mars in Libra, who is most comfortable with the middle ground, Mars in Scorpio has a black-or-white philosophy of life. These are the people who say, “Just choose!” They really are not comfortable with compromise–what kind of satisfaction could you possibly get from compromise? Real living, to Mars in Scorpio, is all about accepting challenges and making changes. These people constantly test themselves, and, often, others. They make all kinds of rules and goals, just for the personal satisfaction that comes from achieving or mastering them. Their survival instincts are strong, and they embrace their own animal nature when they are all alone with themselves, without guilt.

These people have a provocative quality to them. This quality is usually most evident in youth, though it is often carried over into adulthood in more subtle, controlled ways. Mars in Scorpio natives who have low self-esteem can become mighty twisted. Instead of beating themselves up, they turn self-loathing outward, and end up manipulating others and feeling resentful. While Mars in Libra is constantly striving to bring fairness to the world, Mars in Scorpio knows that life simply isn’t fair.

I wouldn’t say I’m the type that is always trying to do the impossible, but I do appreciate things that challenge me. And while I have extreme concentration and willpower to complete something that I decide to do, I realize my biggest problem is that I decide to put all my time and effort in things that really don’t matter all that much to me, meaning things that I am not heavily invested or passionate in. To provide a real life reference to this, I’ll say that I spend a majority of my time on my corporate job, which I am not passionate about at all. If I compare the time I spend writing, which is one of my biggest passions, to time spent on my corporate job, it is obviously skewed in the wrong direction. The justification I make to myself in my head is that my corporate job not only pays for my bills but for my luxurious lifestyle as well, so I have to spend the most time doing that instead of my passions which currently is not a means for me to even pay for a single packet of instant ramen at this point. Moving on, I’ve already mentioned a few times that how I present myself is rarely a true reflection of how I feel inside, so I won’t go into that again here, except to agree that generally I didn’t want to let people see that side of me. However, as I am going through my spiritual journey, I am taking actions to change that and show that side no matter how ugly it may be because I am doing a disservice to myself not being authentic. Next is the ability to see through others and trusting my gut feelings, which I wish I could do more often. I don’t doubt this is something I have, but presume because I am so closed off to my true self, that I have reduced my intuition and these abilities. As for the last part of that first paragraph, I’ll simply say that I agree with it.

It goes on to say sharing partners and compromise are both things Mars in Scorpio don’t agree with and I concur with that. However I have rarely ever acted in alignment with my feelings on both topics. In fact, I have acted on the contrary much more that I have in conjunction to it. I have dated more than one man at the same time fully aware that they were also with different women as well. While deep down I have a dislike for sharing and a jealous nature, because I was not committed and wanted the freedom to explore other opportunities, that justified agreement to that type of situation. In my last relationship, I compromised a lot even though it caused me to feel disadvantaged in the relationship since I was succumbing to his ways more than to my own desires. As for the part that says real living is accepting challenges, making changes, testing self and others, making rules and goals to achieve and master them for personal satisfaction, I can confirm those are all things I have an affinity towards. I feel I am regularly changing and testing myself, and only more recently am I setting goals to achieve so that I can feel a sense of accomplishing things that are meaningful to me. Lastly, it mentions embracing my animal nature when alone without guilt. After putting some thought into it, it made me laugh because I admit that when I am alone, I am much more likely to act without regard to societal expectations.

The last paragraph says those with low self esteem manipulate others and are resentful, but I don’t believe I am either of those things. I do loathe and beat myself up instead. If my self-perception is incorrect and someone who knows me well wants to tell me otherwise, I would welcome to hear it as I can’t change what I am not aware of. And finally, I don’t know how many times I have said this in conversation with various people, but “Life is NOT fair.” and I expect to go through my life dealing with that fact – maybe it is the negative side of me.

As I indicated in my What Does Mars Really Have to do with Men? post, I will also go over another person’s chart, referred to as Kali, who is born on the same month and day as I was, but different year and location to offer a comparison of how two people with the same birth day, can be vastly different despite both being Scorpios. According to Kali’s natal/birth chart from Café Astrology her Mars is in Sagittarius and this is the description the report provides:

When Mars in Sagittarius people get angry, they feel like running. They have to do something–not about it, but something else altogether. They don’t have a lot of patience to wait things out. This is where the restless and adventurous nature of Sagittarius comes in. People with this position of Mars should seriously consider physical activity as the best means of anger management, if they don’t already (naturally) do so. People with Mars in Sagittarius generally have a number of projects going at once. They are not known for their follow-through, however! They start up new projects, however, with admirable gusto. Their vision and optimism can get in the way of completing what they start–they want to do so much, and they trash things too easily when a new idea takes hold.

Most of the time, Mars in Sagittarius is playful and fun-loving. They love friendly debates, although they can go to extremes. Some take it personally when you don’t agree with them– why wouldn’t you agree, after all? Well, for one, you might (especially if you have planets in Virgo or Gemini) find plenty of holes in their arguments. The thing is, more often than not, they haven’t thought things through, yet they’re very passionate about what they believe in. Mars in Sagittarius loves to “wing it”. Mars in Sagittarius people see themselves as warm-blooded folk. They are, but they sometimes run roughshod over others’ feelings during their more passionate debates. They can be blunt with people, although if they have a more tactful Mercury placement, this quality will be subdued. Their direct, blunt approach is most obvious in bed. They’re passionate lovers, and are turned on by open-mindedness and good humor. But, they are not usually patient when sex gets too intricate or serious.

Mars in Sagittarius can be a little hard to understand. Sometimes they seem to be the most easy-going of people–they love a good joke and a good time. Other times they are on fire– intense and impassioned about something or other. They abhor anything that fences them in. They need to feel like they have space. They’re the ones who will run away when things get too serious or dull. They’ll likely be back soon–it’s just that they need to feel free for a while or they go batty. When these people argue, they can too easily pick up a moralistic stance that drives everyone around them crazy. More likely than not, however, they jump off their high horse sooner than later, and get back to having fun. Mars in Sagittarius is used to getting their way and persuading others to believe what they believe in. Every now and again, they face the few that don’t quite buy their grand theories, or, worse yet, poke holes in their plans. This is when these normally fun-loving people get frustrated. In fact, they take it personally when others don’t agree with their philosophies.

The final thing I would like to mention is that both Kali and I have an Opposition between Mars and Jupiter, which is described in both our Café Astrology birth reports as the following:
She often refuses to accept any guidance. She can sometimes lack forethought, acting impulsively and sometimes imprudently, which can cause problems. She wants everything yesterday and might use whatever means necessary to achieve her objectives, even if questionable. Her emotional life can be fraught with quarrels and or conflicts due to quick, passionate reactions. She can be very enthusiastic and hopeful.

When analyzing myself in reference to this description, I will admit that I very much hate asking for help or guidance and want to do things on my own as much as possible. This is not always to my benefit because I will stubbornly persist wasting precious hours trying to do things alone. I don’t always think things through, can be impulsive if I am frustrated and impatient and don’t always make the sensible or wise decisions, all of which can leave me off at a worse place than when I started. When it comes to the professional environment and achieving deliverables I am quite impatient even with colleagues and want things ASAP because things should be done well in advance of any set deadline. However, I disagree with doing whatever is necessary to get the job done, even if questionable because I am an absolute stickler for following the rules. I do wonder if there is another placement in my chart that lends to this because I have been in many situations where others bend the rules and cross the line and it often makes me feel sick to my stomach seeing and knowing these types of things. As for lots of quarrels and conflicts from passionate reactions, that was not much of an issue since I would bite my tongue to avoid saying how I truly feel specifically to avoid conflicts, but there was one relationship when I was younger who I was more inclined to release my emotions with vs. holding them in and that I found myself regularly fighting and breaking up with consistently over many years. Lastly, I also disagree with the last sentence since I feel I am more negative than I am hopeful.