NUMEROLOGY: House #13

A karmic debt number refers to specific negative aspects that happened in past lives that should be addressed by learning a lesson and overcoming the negative characteristics in the current life. There are four different karmic debt numbers – 13, 14, 16 and 19. These numbers can appear anywhere, such as one of the top 5 numerology aspects of a person’s profile or even the address of a home that they live in.

I have lived in two houses associated to karmic debt numbers and know a couple others who also live in other karmic debt numbered homes, such as House # 16, which is another post I published. I started this house numerology blog series with the karmic debt number 19 since this was the impetus of me getting into numerology and wanting to learn more about it. To end this mini karmic debt house series, I will go into the karmic debt number 13, which is the other karmic debt numbered house that I lived in. My childhood home that I lived in since I was about 2 years old until graduating college was a 13 home.

13 as a karmic debt number refers to a past life that involved abuse for material gain. This may have included laziness, overindulgence, selfishness, blaming others, stubbornness, controlling nature, taking advantage of others, avoiding and purposefully not taking on duties or responsibilities, focusing on things that brought pleasure, ended up hurting others, and being overall negative. They took shortcuts, avoided completing tasks, didn’t plan, were disorganized, had unreasonable self-doubt and made decisions thoughtlessly.

Those with 13 in their numerology chart may encounter the following challenges in their current life: being overly controlling, demanding, rigid, stubborn, having a negative self-image due to not being successful, a belief that they are incapable of accomplishing their goals, or having difficulty with discovering their own talents, resulting in them trying many different things without successfully finding their niche. To pay off the karmic debts, the following lessons must be learned.

They must work hard in a disciplined manner without procrastinating, tapping into courage to achieve success despite many obstacles and problems and can’t give up no matter how beaten down and frustrated they may become. They need to fight constantly and consistently to achieve happiness, yet they must also strive to find balance between work and relaxation. Taking accountability for all decisions and actions, accepting the ramifications and outcomes with grace and learning to say no when it is likely that a promise cannot be fulfilled for any reason are also lessons they must learn. Being of service to others, helping to lift them up in some way should be a part of one’s life purpose and mastering positivity, especially in actions and speech, while also thinking before speaking to avoid being overly critical, judgmental or harsh leads to avoiding hurting others. Those with this karmic number in their numerology profile should concentrate on being more responsible, focusing only on one area at a time, in an organized and in a more self-limiting manner that focuses on others instead of self, without multi-tasking or prioritizing pleasure. Working on too many different projects or multi-tasking, without laser focus on one thing through to completion, will waste energy and result in failure. They should decide on one project, start it, commit to it wholly and work on it solely until completion, before even contemplating the next project. It is about quality, not quantity for those with this karmic debt number.

My Life Path Number is a 13, so more details about how this karmic debt number translates to me and my life can be found on my Numerology: Life Path (Part 3 – Karmic Debt #13) post.

When adding the digits of the house address or unit number of an apartment totals to 13, it is considered a house with the karmic debt number and can hold the energies related to this particular karma. These houses have a high vibration, which can be unpredictable or unstable. People living in the home are found to be very curious and intellectually driven, maybe even considered a genius, but because of the high energy, they have trouble focusing and concentrating on any task for too long. Those living in a 13 house may be lazy, indifferent, judgmental, selfish and disorganized. Therefore they may not achieve success or happiness and their relationships with others may be negatively impacted. Not unlike houses with an address that totals to a karmic debt 19, homes with a number 13 might need a lot of work done to them. These houses are more prone to damages and structural problems, like cracked walls or issues with the foundation, or they could just be in rough physical shape. Website sources I’ve come across also says that living in a 13 house increases the likelihood of falling in love and gives the example that a new friend coming into one’s life may develop to a relationship beyond friendship, but that relationship is likely to have problems with stability.

As I did research on this, a few sources found online indicated that 13 homes have some characteristics of a 4 numbered home, since 1+3=4. Here are some energies that may be prevalent in these homes as mentioned in articles and blogs found online related to 13/4 homes: can make residents conservative, rigid, and very driven by discipline and order to the point of oppression. There may be relationship issues related to repetitive toxic patterns. This is not a good home for emotional people because they may end up hiding their feelings that can lead to becoming more distant from loved ones. If this is the case, the suggested way to mitigate this energy is to see a therapist. Energies lead to an imbalance of being too serious when it comes to work vs. play. Residents may work too much and neglect their family. Lastly an interesting observation is the house is often shaped like a box.

What I can say about my childhood home, that had this karmic debt address, is that most of the energies described seemed to be true with different things related to various family members. I thought of my brother when it talks about people living in the home being curious, intellectually driven and maybe even a genius, but not good at focusing on one thing for long. I considered my brother to be brilliant, not needing to study, because things came easily to him, and because of that, I felt he got bored easily and didn’t want to focus on studies. I personally felt lazy, indifferent and disorganized when I was younger. I know I drove my sister crazy with how messy I was sharing a room with her. There were points we literally had a line in the middle of the room because of it. I go into my selfish nature in my North Node Sign, Numerology: Life Path (Part 3 – Karmic Debt #13) and Numerology: Birth Day posts. As for not achieving success, happiness and having issues with relationships, I can see that being the case for my entire family at varying levels for each of us. The house itself did have some damage – most directly a result of my dad literally punching holes in the walls when he was angry. I don’t know if we had structural or foundation issues with the home per say, but wouldn’t be surprised if there may have been simply because we were living in the house when the big 6.9 earthquake occurred in 1989. Since I spent the first 20 years of my life in that 13 home, I did fall in love a handful of times with guys who were friends first and all of those relationships did have issues being stable, but I would attribute that more because it was young immature love, which I think is common for that early type of love.

When looking into the 4 energies of my home growing up, I think my parents were conservative, rigid, disciplinarians to the point that us children did live in an oppressed environment compared to most other kids our age. We were not allowed to talk on the phone (unless we really needed to such as to discuss homework), have any friends over (unless it was our birthday or maybe a holiday), go out with friends or school functions, except to occasionally attend birthday parties or a school dance – though there were not very many they did say yes to and sleepovers was not allowed. Of course, the rebellious side of me ended up doing some of those things on my own without permission in my later high school years. I will say that I know my parents were trying to be the best parents they could be, raising us in a way they felt was the safest, best way and probably not unlike how their own parents raised them. But I found it difficult since most of my friends in school aside from my two best friends who also had extremely strict parents, didn’t have such restrictions placed on them. Because of that upbringing, I really did not learn social skills until I attended college. I will add that their strict rigid restrictions applied more to my sister and I, but not my brother because he was a boy and also the youngest.

I was also very aware of the relationship issues my parents had between themselves, one a direct result of repetitive toxic patterns, but I won’t discuss that in detail here since it is not my story to tell. With this not being a good home for emotional people, I can say firsthand being emotional, that I did try to hide my feelings all the time. I did very much feel distant from my sibling and my parents because I held everything in and did not feel comfortable discussing any of my emotions with them. It would have been very beneficial if I had a therapist to talk to, but due to cultural reasons, my parents were completely opposed to the idea of psychology and talking to a therapist because they were complete strangers and such personal issues should not be shared like that. I don’t think either of my parents were overly imbalanced when it came to work though, because their generation was a whole lot better then mine when it came to ending work at the same time everyday so that they could be home for dinner consistently. I never felt neglected by either of my parents because they were working too much. Lastly, yes as you may be able to tell in the picture I used for this post, my childhood home was shaped exactly like a box; it was a perfect rectangle.