Per my All My Houses blog post, I generically describe the House System in astrology going into what each House represents. There are many different house systems and this post is based on specifically using the Placidus House system. It is believed that houses with any planet within it is of significance so the specific planet will have a particular influence on whatever the House it is in represents. As part of my blog series of using astrology to understand myself better, I will go over each astrological body’s house placement based on my natal/birth chart.
According to my Cafe Astrology birth/natal report, where you can also go to run your own report, Neptune is in my 11th House which is related to the Aquarius sign and called the House of Blessings. It is the area of search for social and intellectual security through the application of creativity, skills, talents, and drive from the 5th House. This leads to how one shares knowledge at individual friendship levels all the way up to greater humanitarian purposes.
With Neptune being in my 11th House, the report describes the placement as the following:
Friendships are unselfish, and she very much wants to belong to a group of like-minded people or to connect with a higher purpose.
When I was young and immature, there was a time in my friendships where I was selfish and had been called out on it, which was a wake up call I needed to become a better friend. When I was supposed to go out with friends I sometimes ended up cancelling or not showing up. I was flaky, inconsistent, unreliable and selfish. Being an introvert, I naturally prefer not going out with friends often, so that was not in my favor to begin with. Also being terrible at saying no added to the problem because I would agree to meet someone or do something with people when I honestly had no desire whatsoever to do so. It was not uncommon for me to try to reschedule a meetup, cancel my attendance or in the worst case and rare occasion, not show up at all without any advanced notice. I’d do this for various selfish reasons like if I wanted to hang out with another friend whom I actually wanted to spend time with or my boyfriend at the time, or even stay at home and do nothing alone because that was more appealing than the being social option. A couple friends had told me that I didn’t go out with them enough, spent too much time with my boyfriend or stayed at home all the time. I don’t recall what my responses were to those, but I highly doubt I said what was really on my mind, which was that I chose to do those things because they were more comfortable and pleasurable for me than being social and going out with them. There was one particular person who I rescheduled/cancelled on three times in a row before she called me out on my bad behavior and she was absolutely right to do so. It forced me to confront the fact that I did not consider her a true friend since I did not feel any real connection or enough similar interests to invest time to develop a true friendship with her. I appreciated her for doing that because from that point forward, it made me much more mindful of who I develop friendships with and when I say yes to meeting up with someone, which I believe has made me to be the better friend that I am today.
I will add that I do think growing up in Northern California, in The Bay Area, did not help with this bad trait either. After I moved out of California and lived in a couple other states and would regularly go back to The Bay to visit, meetups with friends would always be planned when my schedule allowed. It was then that I really felt my karma from being a flaky friend because I always got cancelled on by various friends to the point I expected to not meet up with everyone I planned to meet with. As I realized what a regular occurrence it was, I wondered if this was the experience of most people in The Bay Area so I asked several people what their general experience was with consistently meeting with friends and found that everyone I talked to said it was common for them to not meet up with others due to rescheduling or cancellation with a wide variety of accepted excuses from having to work late, something coming up with family, bad traffic or even being too tired. All of these I recognized as excuses I used all the time myself when I was living there. I found when living in other states, especially Texas, priority is placed on spending time with loved ones and rescheduling or cancelling was rare and only happened with more true emergencies or things that were out of one’s control. I don’t know if it is a regional cultural thing, or only my experience when younger and more immature, but I am glad to see how I’ve personally evolved this negative trait and truly make an effort to make time for family and friends and ensure my circle includes those who I have developed genuine relationships with.
In college, it was easy to find friends and groups of like-minded people to join and belong to. Maybe because almost everyone at that age is still coming into their own and figuring out not only what they ultimately want to do with their lives, but themselves as well. As I look back to that time, now 30 years later, I can’t help but sigh with frustration because I am doing the same exact thing of trying to understand myself better and who I am deep inside as well as what I want to do with rest of my life. I suppose the silver lining is I can at least say with all the years of experiences behind me, I do feel wiser and have a better approach as to how I am doing it, not feeling totally lost and erratic with my methods as when I was younger.
Within the past two years, my likes or interests have drastically evolved to subjects I previously had very little knowledge of or devoted any time or energy to. The free time I have is now dedicated to writing and spent focused on the metaphysical with Feng Shui, Astrology, Tarot and other spiritual practices. With my recent spiritual journey, now more than ever, I want to expand my soul tribe to include those who are also into these same things. I do believe that I was meant to find and choose the specific Feng Shui teacher that I ended up doing my training and certification with, who also happened to do her own vetting process of me to decide to allow me into her course. Because it is through her and the community she attracted and built that I have the opportunity to belong to a couple groups of like-minded people, who are not only focused on Feng Shui, but spiritual practices too. Feng Shui was the stepping stone into my spiritual journey since my teacher spends more of her time and resources on another group dedicated to manifestation through spiritual practices which I also joined. Since these groups include people from around the world, my interactions with everyone has been through zoom and social media, but regardless, there have been a few who I interact with personally outside of the groups and developed what I consider friendships. I have had the pleasure of meeting one person from the Feng Shui group in person recently since they happened to travel into town and hope next year allows me the privilege of meeting others also.
However, I long to meet other writers and take courses in both Astrology and Tarot so that I can meet more people with those other interests too. But most of all, I want to find a group of people in my local hometown to meet up with in person to hang out, have meals, drinks and get together to talk about the very topics we are mutually interested in. I am going on two years since I moved from Texas and have not made any new friends locally yet. Lastly, I also do want to connect to a higher purpose and that has been my mission as described in my From GGibberish to Purpose post.
As indicated in my What Does Mars Really Have to do with Men? post, I will also go over another person’s chart, referred to as Kali, who is born on the same month and day as I was, but different year and location to offer a comparison of how two people with the same birth day, can be vastly different despite being both Scorpios. According to Kali’s natal/birth chart from Café Astrology her Neptune is located in her 1st House.
The 1st House is related to the Aries sign and called the House of Self and has the most authority versus the other houses because it is the start of all horoscopes. It’s energy spreads to the other houses to help learn and develop the other parts of our personality, but is not more dominant than your sun sign. It is the area of self identity, how you come off to others from first impressions, your personality, instincts, values, habits and traits, the way you dress, to how you interact. Also the attitude that one has towards life and self-awareness.
This is the description Kali’s report provides:
She is intuitive, sensitive. Not a fighter and can be indecisive. Usually projects an image of softness. May have some identity problems until she decides on a more spiritual or artistic path. May be psychic or simply strongly intuitive. Gentle and yielding. Changeable appearance or image, particularly if Neptune is close to the Ascendant.
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